Y’all.
Everything being equal I’d rather have started a new life 30 years and not now. Not at this age or time. But I didn’t get that choice. So I’m starting now.
As I get older I realize more and more about the conflicted imperfections of the planet and the people who walk it.
I include my own less-than-perfect, but wildly hopeful self in this realization.
Some of what I saw for decades as my physical imperfections I tried like hell to “fix” (you hear me, ladies and some gents) until I realized those imperfections were simply me…and by the way, who decided they were imperfections? Usually someone who wanted to make money or gain power off any natural insecurities I had, or to create an insecurity I didn’t have before.
To be someone else other than me was a tall order for a short girl. And these days I soundly reject it.
I will always have strengths and weaknesses. So will you.
I don’t need to be “fixed.”
Neither do you.
We only need to do better tomorrow than we did yesterday.
And we have total control over that.
What else?
I’ve learned most of us are just one phone call away from falling right to our knees.
I’ve learned that the only one-size-fits-all gift is kindness. Kindness creates its own currency. The more you give away, the more you have.
I’ve learned that your true friends will save you, should you need it, and you will do the same for them.
I’ve learned we will make mistakes.
Sometimes we repeat them.
You likely won’t know how to stop repeating mistakes until you realize why you’re making them. The “why” often falls into three broad categories: fear, ignorance, or denial.
I’ve learned people will hurt you and you will hurt them. Neither is okay.
Neither is hurting yourself to help others.
Neither is hurting others to fit an agenda. Agendas are often based in insecurity, greed, and ego. (Yeah, I’m calling out the human race.)
I’ve learned that when people talk about you but not to you then they have something to hide, although they often refuse to realize that.
It’s usually something that is partially or patently untrue about you, but it feels better to judge than bother with the whole story.
People often feel so good and right about holding wrong ideas about others. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. Stop it.
I’ve learned that honesty will save a lot of time and avoid a lot of problems.
I’ve learned that you will do things you never thought you could, and some things you seriously never wanted to do at all.
Kudos.
I know what that takes.
I’ve learned we sometimes play a role in our own suffering. If you figure out why that is, you can do yourself a huge favour by halting that mess.
I’ve learned that bravery is simply not optional.
Of all the things I was taught as a youngster (“Do well in school,” “Treat others the way you want to be treated”) what I didn’t know as a kid and had to find out as an adult — often the hard way — was “Be brave.”
You will never make it through this world without being brave.
Furthermore, the spectrum of being brave can run from military service to simply making it through another day.
When I was a child, I believed in monsters.
As an adult, I found out they were real.
There are giants in our lands who will try to crush you. You must be brave when facing behemoths that take up space in your inner and outer world.
Did you know you have the ability to fell giants? You do, my friends. Align with like-minded folks and watch that power and ability grow.
I also learned there are dragons in the world, and not the fun or cool kind. They often try, and succeed, in doing incredible damage.
You must be a dragon slayer.
You can.
And now is the time.
I needed this today. I have been afraid these past weeks, because I have to speak in front of a large group on Sunday, at my dad's memorial service. I want to be eloquent, witty and strong. Your Life Lesson # let's me know that simply being brave is enough.
Everything about myself can usually be expressed best by song lyrics. And, as you likely know, I just hightailed it out of The ATL for my boyhood home of Uniontown, PA.
Welcome to my world...
https://youtu.be/MJrwAtUfkmc